Dr. Meera Mohananswered on 1 year ago
Feeling angry is not bad and allowing ourselves to consciously express that anger is actually very healthy, both emotionally and physically. The problem is we aren't really taught about healthy expression, so we end up stuffing it. We are taught to avoid this feeling which makes that person at a high risk of the health issues such as heart attack, cancer or high blood pressure. I can explain some of the best ways to express anger in a healthy way.
- Stop and don't speak - Do not respond immediately when you are at intense anger. When you are at an intense anger your thoughts and actions will affect your relation with other people around you. Stop trying to convert others to your point of view. There’s a proverb which suits the situation very best is that “A quick-tempered person does foolish things, and the one who devises evil schemes is hated”
- Stop talking about what made you angry - When you repeat the story over and over, you give it energy. Is there something that needs to be corrected, changed or dealt with better? Look for the lesson.
- Observe your feeling - Acknowledge the feeling and then let it go. Observe it and understand the reasons that took you to this emotional state.
- Put it in writing - Writing a note is a great way for couples to make their anger known to each other if they can't talk about it without getting defensive
- Hit something (not someone) - Hitting or screaming into a pillow, instead of erupting at a person, can help stabilize feelings when you're about to lose it. But limit pillow punching to 30 seconds at a time. Hitting the treadmill may help too: Walking daily has been shown to calm anger and decrease diastolic blood pressure.
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